Abstract:
The world is witnessing a radical transformation in parenting and child-rearing practices, as smart devices become an integral part of children’s daily lives. This article explores the relationship between children and technology, questioning the new role that screens play in shaping language, behavior, and emotions, and even replacing the role of parents in education. It also highlights both the positive and negative impacts of increasing digital reliance and provides practical recommendations for achieving a balance between technological learning and human upbringing.
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Introduction:
In recent years, it has become common to see a child holding a tablet or smartphone. Instead of playing outside or flipping through comic books, many children now spend long hours in front of screens, switching between games, videos, and apps.
This raises the most important question:
Are parents still the ones raising the child… or has that responsibility gradually shifted to smart devices?
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1. The Beginning of the Relationship – How Does the Child Enter the Screen World?
Studies show that the average age at which a child begins using smart devices is between 1 and 2 years.
It usually starts innocently:
• The child cries → the parent gives them the phone to calm down
• The child is tired → YouTube Kids is turned on
• And thus, the bond is formed: comfort for the child, and (temporary) relief for the parents.
But this simple beginning can develop into dependency or even addiction. Without proper guidance, the child becomes a captive of the screen rather than a user.
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2. Behavioral and Cognitive Effects
1. Language and Communication:
• Delayed speech development in some children due to passive viewing
• Learning foreign languages or accents inappropriate for their environment
2. Attention and Focus:
• Rapid content switching weakens concentration
• Children get used to instant stimulation, making traditional learning seem boring
3. Emotional and Social Skills:
• Reduced interaction with parents and peers weakens emotional intelligence
• The absence of real dialogue is replaced by artificial, scripted digital content
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3. Is the Problem in the Tablet or the Way It’s Used?
We can’t entirely blame the devices themselves. Technology is a tool — and tools depend on how they’re used.
There are great educational apps, enriching content, and interactive games that help develop a child’s mind.
However, the real issue lies in:
• Excessive screen time (more than 2–3 hours a day)
• Lack of supervision or meaningful interaction
• Complete reliance on devices as “substitute parents”
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4. Where Is the Role of Parents?
Some parents have unknowingly surrendered their educational role to screens — either due to lack of time or lack of awareness.
But children need:
• Emotional support
• Ongoing conversations
• Physical play
• Quality time with parents
None of these essential elements can be replaced by technology.
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5. Practical Educational Recommendations
1. Set screen time limits:
No more than 1–2 hours per day, depending on the child’s age.
2. Be actively involved:
Don’t leave the child alone with the device — sit with them and engage.
3. Offer real-life alternatives:
Books, storytelling, physical games, shared family time.
4. Use parental control tools:
Monitor content and manage what the child sees.
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Conclusion:
A child doesn’t just need a modern device — they need a warm embrace, a guiding mind, and a listening heart.
Technology is here to stay, but it should not take over our most vital role as educators and caregivers.
Let us raise our children using technology — not let technology raise them instead.
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